A mother-of-four has been praised online for sharing a very real photo of her family life.
Jazmyne Futrell from California, USA, recently posted an image to her Facebook page Mixed Mom Brown Babies, where she’s seen cooking chicken noodle soup while breastfeeding her seven-month-old baby Koehn.
At the same time, her seven-year-old son Karson is tugging on her shirt and showing her a page of his homework, while her five-year-old daughter Kinley and three-year-old son Karter, enjoy screen time at her feet.
“There’s so much to say about this photo,” the blogger, 31, tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “I shouldn’t be cooking while holding my baby, my son has a ponytail because I didn’t have time to braid his hair, and my kids are on the floor.”
“That’s why I posted it — there’s not enough realness on social media.”
Futrell took an interest in blogging after Koehn was born. “I had postpartum depression and all the other moms looked amazing on social media,” she tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “Many times I thought, ‘Can I do this?’ I hope showing photos like this lets mothers know they’re not fighting their battles alone.”
People said Futrell was a “rock star” and a “warrior,” except for those concerned for her apparent lack of help. “Maybe she’s a single mom,” a commenter wrongly assumed.
“While in labour with Koehn, the nurse asked my husband if he was a father to my unborn child or all [of] my kids because she [said there are] ‘a lot of single moms.'”
Meanwhile, Futrell says her husband – who took the photo – is doted on in comparison. “Once at a store, my husband took the kids to another section so I could try on clothes,” she said. “A woman told me, ‘I just want to compliment you for your awesome husband. He’s ‘babysitting’ so you can shop.'”
“He wasn’t babysitting his own children — he’s required by law to care for them,” says Futrell. “The bar is set so low for fathers.”
Futrell says social expectations for families makes her village stand out. “I used to make excuses for people’s comments,” she says. “Not anymore.”