Does sex on the first date ruin your relationship?

November 26, 2012, 11:05 ammenshealth

Will waiting result in a more harmonious relationship?

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Think she might be the one? Then you may want to think twice before accepting her offer of a nightcap.

Research examining how sexual timing is associated with relationship satisfaction, stability, and communication has found waiting to become intimate had a higher correlation with more favorable long-term relationship outcomes.

The answers of nearly 11,000 individuals involved in a steady relationship were grouped into four sexual-timing categories:

The result:


Breakdown

35.5 per cent had early sex (on the first date)

9.9 per cent had pre-dating sex (becoming intimate before committing to a dating relationship)

47.9 per cent had delayed sex (waiting to have sex until dating for several weeks)

6.6 per cent abstained from sex completely

Groups postponing sex the longest or abstaining completely expressed the highest levels of relationship satisfaction.

In terms of relationship stability and communication, variations between groups grew wider as time elapsed but by the two-year mark the no-sex group was the clear winner.

Your move:


The results suggest a relationship benefits in both the short- and long-term from delaying sexual activity. So if you think you and your new girl may have a shot, taking things slowly at first may give you a better shot at happily ever after. And besides, you can always make up for lost time once you decide to take it to the next level.

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21 Comments

  1. Glib10:52am Tuesday 27th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    It's only sex. It's not rocket science.

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  2. Les02:15am Tuesday 27th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    They say it all starts and ends in the bedroom. So what's the waiting for? I want to know if it's going to be good in AND out of the bedroom. So she can wait all she wants but I have to reserve my decision that part is sorted. Trouble is the reason you're in the bedroom is that she has made the emotional commitment. But I can't until this happens. And if it's a no from me, I'll run the risk of being a 'user', which is convenient for the lady, but totally inaccurate.

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  3. Dennis12:31am Tuesday 27th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    Most of them I know had sex to test if their partner would be fit for a long term relationship. The girls also like it that way. If it does not work out oh what is the big deal it is after all sex we had. This is the 21st century culture. Who ever does not admit is lying.

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  4. Dennis12:29am Tuesday 27th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    Most of them I know had sex to test if their partner would be fit for a long term relationship. The girls also like it that way. If it does not work out oh what is the big deal it is after all sex we had. This is the 21st century culture. Who ever does not admit is lying.

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  5. Ghost Hunter11:27pm Monday 26th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    If and when a couple have sex for the first time depends on many different factors. For instance, if the 'female' was comrade ju-LIAR 'BARGE#$%$E' dullard, - then ANY form of sex would be completely out of the question for any normal male - - - he'd be too busy vomiting to do anything else !

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  6. david11:17pm Monday 26th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    alot of catholic priests have sex on the 1st ;date; & their relationships sometimes last years....

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  7. John09:49pm Monday 26th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    And honestly to the people that openly talk about their sex lives no one cares and no one wants to know so keep it to yourselves.

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  8. John09:47pm Monday 26th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    What a trashy article, typical of yahoo 7.

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  9. kat09:41pm Monday 26th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    My partner and I did, that was 8 years ago, getting married next year and have been only with each other in that time.

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  10. Glib08:10pm Monday 26th November 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    My wife & I had sex on the day we met, & are still blissfully married after 10 years.

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