Yahoo Lifestyle Breast advice
WOMEN KNOW YOU LOOK
Three-quarters of the women we asked think men’s fascination with breasts is harmless. This is neither a ticket to leer nor an invitation to make crass comments. “There’s no excuse for not being courteous or maintaining eye contact with women,” says Dr Debby Herbenick, a sexual-health researcher at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute in the US. So mind your manners – revel in breasts privately, respect them publicly and revere the women who bring them into your life.
THEY LOVE THEM, TOO
Most of the women we surveyed consider their boobs to be key parts of their sexual identity. Sixty-two per cent think it’s more exciting to pull off their tops than their bottoms, and 78 per cent prefer the woman-on-top position because it shows off their breasts.
IT’S COMPLICATED
The fact that breasts are ever-changing only complicates matters. The average woman changes cup size six times during her adult life. Monthly cycles, birth-control pills, weight changes and pregnancy all alter the size of breasts. “The sexiest thing a woman can wear is her self-confidence,” says Elisabeth Squires, the author of Boobs: A Guide to Your Girls. “If she’s the least bit insecure, then work to help her feel good about her body.” All you need, she says, is genuine enthusiasm, which won’t be a problem.
YOU NEED TO KNOW MORE
Men tend to have two “touching” defaults, says Herbenick. “They tend to either touch her the way they enjoy being touched (usually firm or rough), or the way a previous partner liked it.” And she may not like it that way at all. So every time a woman takes off her bra in your presence, wipe away all memory of previous breasts. This works even if she is your partner of many years. Start over by pretending you’ve never seen them before. “You learn and relearn how someone moans, sighs and squeals when you touch them,” says Herbenick. “You will never have to slip into an old routine.”
TOUCH THEM IN OTHER WAYS
“Breasts aren’t just about sex,” says sexologist Dr Logan Levkoff. Learn to desexualise moments of great intimacy. For example, if a woman complains about her breasts being sore, offer to massage them, says Squires. Do this in a nonsexual way – if you can. “Breast massage can feel incredible, and it’s not really something we can ask for at the spa,” she says.
