Yahoo Lifestyle Fatherhood Is A Process And I Want To Hear Your Stories
I don’t have kids yet, but they say the experience of growing a child is nothing short of miraculous—maybe that explains why women often get that new mom glow.
The number of mom-to-be celebrations that take place are endless—from over-the-top gender reveal extravaganzas to elaborate baby showers—but for some reason, many often fail at fawning over the fathers and those to be. (While writing this, Word even flagged that I made a mistake in writing “fatherhood” and suggested “motherhood” instead.)
My little brother had his first child (and likely not his last) a year ago, and his journey into fatherhood has been an indubitable process. He and a friend took a trip to Japan as his one last kid-free hoorah. In other words, he took a babymoon. The trip was a childhood dream, and he wanted to live it out before welcoming his mini-me.
His son is a cute, curly-haired kid with giant dimples. And you can’t help but smile when you see him. But for my brother, his initial feelings were “strange.” He was ecstatic (seriously, I’ve never seen him smile so big), but as a man, he didn’t feel he had the same attachment as his wife.
In fact, for a very long time, he didn’t know what to think—because his first day meeting his son wasn’t comparable to the nine months his wife spent creating him. But you know what, I’ve learned he’s not the only man who feels (or has felt) that way.
Many men (shout out to 50 Cent) have shared similar feelings when asked, and now I want to hear more. From those who are or have been terrified to take on fatherhood to those who thought they were always meant to be a dad, I want to hear from you.
And it’s not just for me, it’s for other men out there trying to figure it out just like you. Share your journey to fatherhood in the comments below or anonymously on this Google form here. Your comment may appear in a future BuzzFeed article!
