Yahoo Lifestyle Men Who Knowingly Slept With Married Women Are Sharing Why They Did It, And My Jaw Is Literally On The Floor
Recently, Redditor u/theedriplomat asked men who knowingly slept with married women why they did it, and the responses were a mix of shocking and unexpected. Here are some of the stories that might have your eyes widening in disbelief:
1."She told me they had an open marriage. She had an open marriage — her husband did not."
2."I knowingly slept with a married woman when I was in my early 20s. For me, I did it partly for the thrill of cheating. Also, the fact that I'd met the husband a few times and he was a complete asshole made me not care. It doesn't justify my actions, though, and I now realize how wrong it was of me to do that."
3."Her husband was sleeping with my wife, so it was fair game."
4."She told me she wanted to split up with her emotionally abusive husband but didn't know how to support her kids without him. Like a fool, I took her in emotionally and did what I could do to support her for six months. It was all a lie. Apparently, she'd told the same thing to multiple other guys over the years. It took me five years to get over the lies, manipulation, cheating, and emotional mess she left me."
5."I have a strong moral compass but a weak lie detector."
6."She was just so beautiful. I thought that if she was willing to go out on her marriage for me, things must've not been right for her, and I was just so worth it. I imagined that the marriage was the mistake, not the cheating. My immature self got validation for my wanton ego."
7."She was the mom of my high school bully."
8."I was young and dumb. I figured it was her mistake that she had to live with, not mine. At the time, I didn't even really know her husband, and since I was getting sex, I wasn't going to complain. A few years later, I got a job at a place and ended up working with the guy. At first, it never really bothered me — but then we started getting along. I found out he was a really decent guy and that I was a pile of shit who slept with his wife. I always told myself I'd tell him, but they ended up having a kid together, so I didn't want to ruin his life. It's something I'll always feel guilty about for the rest of my life."
9."I don't get many opportunities to have sex, and she was willing to have it with me."
10."She was my high school girlfriend. When I went back home after college, I ran into her and her husband. He was an asshole and pulled the whole, 'I had sex with her last night AND this morning' with me before I even knew his name. She'd texted me that she was sorry for his behavior and told me to stop by her work the next day for a free coffee. As I was heading over there, she asked if I could pick her up for her shift. When I got to her place, she answered the door naked. Turns out she'd called in sick."
11."Swingers. It's kind of what we do."
12."When I was a younger guy who didn't care, I always found it easier. I found that a married woman out at the bars without her husband was there because she wanted to hook up. Single girls can take a guy home whenever they want, so there's no rush. But a married woman only has a certain time frame to hook up, so they always seemed ready to go."
13."I wanted all the taste of a relationship without the calories of commitment. Then, I sobered up, and that behavior and mindset went away."
14."I just didn't care in my early 20s. My thought process was, It's not me cheating. As I've gotten older (and have since been cheated on), I know that was a shitty way to be. Cheating or having an affair aren't things I want to be a part of, and I don't want to make people feel the way I did when I found out I was getting cheated on."
15."Her husband wanted it to happen. It was very weird, and she was eight months pregnant, too. It was an odd situation."
16."I didn't really plan on it, but we had both been drinking and it just kind of happened. She had already begun the separation/divorce process, though, so I don't feel super guilty about it."
17.Lastly: "Nothing had to push me. People make choices, and keeping another man happy is not my job. I don't owe another man anything unless he's a friend, family member, or is helping me in business. Most women don't just easily start cheating. Some do, but most don't, and they don't it because their husbands aren't treating them well."
Whew, that was a lot. If you've ever knowingly been with someone who was married, what made you do it, and what happened? Let us know in the comments, or you can anonymously submit your story using this form!
Note: Some stories have been edited for length and/or clarity.
