Most of us have been on the receiving end of an unwanted romantic advance at one point or another.
If you’re just not that into them or otherwise engaged, a swift and polite decline can (usually) shut it down with minimal fuss.
When it’s a question of timing however, things can get a little more complicated.
Maybe you’re about to move overseas, maybe you’re just out of a long-term relationship or maybe your dog just died and someone decided to ask you out and offer their condolences in one fell swoop.
If you heard the din of a record screeching at that last one, you’re not alone.
Tragically, this is no hypothetical situation but a living, breathing example of both how not to do death, and how not to ask out someone you fancy.
Shared to Reddit via a screenshot of the sorry situation, the exchange will have you melting with sheer embarrassment on behalf of this misguided lover.
The snap shows a snippet of the conversation which is honestly all we need to see.
“Side note,” the would-be Romeo writes. “Can I please take you on a date?”
Wrong. The follow-up message casts the whole thing in an instant shade of inappropriate.
“Pro tip: maybe don’t comment on a post of my dead dog to ask me out,” the offended party shoots back.
The internet reacts
The faux pas was received with a mixture of reactions online.
Many were as grossed out as the lady herself.
“Damn he really dug himself into a hole...” one wrote.
“YIKES,” another wrote.
“I feel like a lot of people who do that do it because they’re so desperate for a girlfriend that they’re willing to take advantage of someone when they’re emotionally vulnerable,” a third mused.
Worryingly, others shared their own tales of being asked out at wildly inappropriate times, meaning this is possibly far more common than we originally thought.
“Why do people think grief is an appropriate time to try?” one woman wondered. “It seems like anytime I've dealt with grief (until my current relationship), someone would try to get me to have sex with them.”
Another agreed, revealing they too had had to fend off advances while processing grief.
“Happened to me when my mom died. A guy I previously rejected decided my mom's death was an opportunity for him. I unleashed on him and he never spoke to me again,” she wrote.
It’s a big, fat, yikes from us on that one.
In future, we recommend you send flowers and a card, not creepy vibes.
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