Yahoo Lifestyle Dating Diaries: Alexa Andre’s holiday fling gets hot, heavy, and... serious?
Welcome to Cosmopolitan UK’s Dating Diaries, where we pull back the curtain on the reality of romance. Sex educators, influencers, and celebs invite us into their love lives to witness lust, love, sex, hook-ups, and dating disasters. A lot can happen in a week! This time, Alexa Andre, sexologist and host of the In Bed With Alexa podcast, spends the week in London — and gets a lot more than she bargained for out of her holiday fling.
Sunday
I’m in London for the week, away from my usual home of Costa Rica, and what better to do on holiday than go on some dates? Robin* and I met on Feeld a few weeks ago, before I arrived. Initially, I didn’t think much of it since our texting was patchy, but we arranged to meet anyway. Our date was meant to be tomorrow but he’s back early from a trip, so we’ve rescheduled for today. Keen!
After a quiet day, I get ready for my date — leggings, a tight top and trainers — before setting off to meet Robin at an Italian restaurant in Soho. As soon as I see him, I’m blown away by his smile, and when we hug I feel very at ease. We start touching almost immediately (a clear sign that we fancy each other), talk non-stop over dinner, and then head to a rooftop bar. In the lift on the way up, we kiss passionately — and then continue to do so throughout the night.
We spend hours talking; he’s a great storyteller and I love listening. The bar is closing, but we’re not done talking, so we decide to go back to my place (I’m cat-sitting, so his is off the cards). We grab some snacks first, and he takes a call from his mum in Albanian, which is cute. On the way to mine, I learn that he speaks Italian, which I’m also in the process of learning, and we switch to it so we can speak explicitly while respecting our taxi driver. We share what we’re into sexually — he likes to be in control and I’m working on letting go of it (a match!). When we get home, we have sex three times.
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Monday
It’s so nice to wake up together. Robin has today off work, so we spend the day together, though we mostly end up just napping and having sex. Later, we grab a quick bite before going out to a comedy show. Even at the show, we can’t keep our hands off each other, indulging in lots of PDA (sorry to everyone in the audience!). But it’s getting intense really quickly, so we decide to spend the night apart. Once I’m home, he texts me to ask if I came yesterday and I tell him I didn’t. We discuss our sex openly, and I explain what I need and how I struggle with receiving pleasure. He seems a bit confused… a sexologist who struggles to advocate for her pleasure?! But he listens and clearly cares. We end the convo by deciding he will go down on me enthusiastically from now on so I can relax and let go.
Tuesday
After a whirlwind couple of days, I almost forgot that I organised a baking class with another man I met on Feeld. He’s nice and the class is fun — we make three different kinds of classic British biscuits, which are delicious — but Robin’s on my mind, so I politely say my goodbyes and head home by myself.
I decide to give into my desires and text Robin; he says he’ll be here at 8:30pm. At 9:30pm, he finally shows up. I’m annoyed, and tell him to keep me updated next time. But after a brief grumpiness and some grovelling on his part, I get over it and we spend the night on the sofa watching a movie in Italian (I’m really milking his skills). We stop it repeatedly to talk, kiss, and have sex. He even says, ‘Ti voglio bene’, which is a cute Italian expression that almost means ‘I love you’. Are we falling for each other after just three days? He’s excited about a reservation he’s made at an Italian restaurant for Friday, and I joke that we’re celebrating our one-year anniversary because it feels like we’ve been together for ever.
Thursday
We decide that I’ll take Robin to his first sex party while I’m in town, and we get ready together. I end up wearing a sheer bodysuit and leather harness, and Robin’s in a tailored suit. When inside the party, I take it slow, matching Robin’s pace. We have fun, watch performances, dance (which I never do, but wanted to with him) and kiss everywhere. In the playroom, I let him take the lead. But it’s so busy that instead we circle around a few times, watch others fuck and I straddle him on a sofa. In the end, we leave early to have sex at home, which is amazing. I’m impressed by his open-mindedness.
Sunday
This morning, Robin’s helping me tidy my cat-sitting place, as I’m leaving for one final night in a hotel. We’ve had sex on every surface, so we have to do a proper deep clean. Then it’s time for my last podcast recording of the trip. It’s with content creator and sex educator Poppy Scarlett, and we talk about polyamory, sex parties, and using toys with your partners. I feel really lucky that I get to talk about sex for a living; it’s so important to normalise these talks to improve sexual satisfaction. It goes really well, and I’m on such a high as I head to meet Robin at the hotel.
As soon as we arrive, we have really steamy sex and I finally come for the first time with him because we use a cock ring. Brands send me sex toys every week and I can’t believe this is the first time I’m smart enough to whip one out and use it. They really are worth the hype. Afterwards, as we’re lying in bed, I think about our last few days together and realise I’m feeling really smitten. Last night, Robin even told me he’s falling for me and asked if I’d stay in London longer! I tried to be level-headed and told him that it’s still such early days between us, but today I finally admit to him that I feel the same. So, after some consideration (and a very good orgasm), I decide to stay another week.
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