Bride's 'humiliating' wedding request leaves friend mortified

Lifestyle Team
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A woman has sparked an intense debate online after sharing an unusual request her friend made ahead of her wedding day.

Sharing the bizarre request on a since-deleted Reddit thread, the woman said she was ‘in shock’ and has been left unsure of what to do.

bride wants friend as flower girl
One bride had a strange request for her friend. Photo: Getty

The 24-year-old woman explained her longtime friend is getting married soon. The two spoke over FaceTime about plans for the bachelorette party and other future plans.

She revealed she wasn't expecting to be a bridesmaid, but she was shocked when the bride asked her, instead, to be the flower girl in her wedding.

“I'm in shock,” she wrote, in the thread which then went viral on Twitter. “Basically she wants me to act like a bridesmaid, but not be one.”

She said the bride sent her a white floral dress that looks like a child's and stands out from what the rest of the wedding party is wearing — and the bride wants to keep the whole thing a secret.

“I get it's her wedding day and she gets to have it however she wants. I don't want to be a flower girl at all, but I don't want to ruin her day,” the post continued.

The saga inspired heated conversations, both in the forum and on Twitter.

Most commenters told her to speak up about the unusual request.

“This is weird AF. I don't think a real friend would want to make another friend feel so uncomfortable,” one Twitter user wrote. “I say tell her you're uncomfortable with the role but still support her in planning the wedding if you're so inclined.”

“Honestly, it sounds like she's trying to cram you into the wedding somehow because she feels guilty about not having you as a bridesmaid,” another agreed.

Little Flower Girls Tossing Rose Petals During Wedding Ceremony
Flower girls are often young children in the family, or even pets. Photo: Getty

Some thought the woman should seriously rethink the nature of her relationship with the bride altogether.

“Incredibly humiliating, and she knows it or she wouldn’t say, 'don’t tell anyone’,” one user said.

“The beginning and the end of is that this woman isn't your friend, has never seen you as an adult even after you became one,” another wrote.

Of course, some took on an entirely different perspective.

“Flower girl isn't a role just for children, I've also seen dogs and cats do it,” one person pointed out.

“Listen, I'm a guy in my mid-30s and I would f****** love to be a flower girl,” another user said. “That said if you don't want to do it, you have to tell her you don't want to do it.”

Additional reporting by Kelsey Weekman.

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