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Bride slammed for admitting she doesn't want fiancé's daughter at their wedding

Attractive teenage girl is looking sadly away, leaning on her hands while her mother is scolding her, sitting on couch at home
The woman and her future step-daughter don't get along. Stock Image. Photo: Getty

A bride-to-be has faced heavy criticism after revealing she doesn’t want to invite her fiancé's daughter to their upcoming wedding.

Taking to Reddit, the woman explained her partner has a 12-year-old daughter from a previous marriage but the pair don’t get along at all.

“I don’t particularly want her at our wedding,” she wrote. “I’m not trying to be the evil stepmother or anything, but I feel like she’ll just try and ruin the day, I was thinking of saying to my fiancé that we should make it an adult-only wedding.”

She asked people whether she would be an a**hole for making that request, but didn’t expect the backlash that ensued.

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She is considering not inviting her partner's daughter to their wedding. Photo: Getty

“Definitely an a**hole move... that’s something Cinderella’s stepmother would pull,” one person hit out.

“Excluding the step-daughter from the wedding isn't going to do anything except further drive a wedge between them,” another wrote.

“She’s the child, you’re the adult. She’s scared that you might replace her in her dad’s life, and you want to completely validate her fears by excluding her from the wedding?” was another person’s outraged response. “It’s your job to keep making overtures and keep trying to include her until she’s ready and able to accept you.”

Given the negative response the bride tried to add further explanation by revealing the daughter isn’t with them all the time as she lives with her mother.

“I actually often go out when she’s here because I can’t deal with her attitude towards me,” she added in an edit to the original post.

“I feel like if she came to the wedding she would actively try and ruin it, and I feel like I should be able to enjoy my wedding day, of course if my fiancé says he wants her there there’s nothing I can do, but am I really the a**hole for just suggesting it to him and getting his opinion?”

This however only further cemented peoples’ opinions that the woman needed to take the high road and invite the daughter.

“Normally I'm 100 per cent on board with the people who want adult-only weddings, but NOT WHEN ONE OF THE PEOPLE GETTING MARRIED HAS A CHILD. You CANNOT exclude your future step-daughter from her father's wedding,” one person wrote.

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Most people slammed the bride for the idea. Photo: Getty

There were a select few who stood in to defend the woman, highlighting that she was simply wanting to have the conversation with her husband-to-be, and hadn’t yet decided to exclude her future step-daughter.

“You guys are going off at her, like calm down,” one person wrote. “Yes I know that she shouldn’t be doing this, but she hasn’t done it yet. Obviously she should maybe make that wedding into a bonding experience if she can, but we can explain things nicely, no?”

There were also a couple of people who told the woman she was giving the 12-year-old too much ‘power’.

“If you’re worried about a 12-year-old ruining your wedding day, you’ve already given that CHILD too much power over your mood. YTA [you are the a**hole] and you’re the adult. Lead by example,” one person said.

“[The woman] needs to learn to not be driven from her house by a 12-year-old. She's 12, [she] needs to be the adult,” another agreed.

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