Aussie mum bored of monogamy dating married man on the side

An Aussie mum is in a rather unconventional relationship after becoming bored of her monogamous relationship with her husband.

Emma Fedigan is now also dating a married man who her kids refer to as their ‘sparent’.

The 37-year-old had been open about her pansexuality to husband of 16 years, Robert, since they got together at 21 but had never got chance to explore her desires as she was busy raising her four sons.

“Rob is my best mate and I couldn’t do life without him, but it’s unfair to expect our partners to fill every single one of our needs,” the polyamorous mum from Perth said.

“Love is infinite. It does not end with one person.”

Three years ago the healthcare professional and her husband decided to plunge back into the dating world where they met fellow married couple Simon Berry, 43, and his partner Kelly, 42.

Emma and Robert quickly hit it off with Kelly while Emma also developed a relationship with Simon and they formed an almost-quadruple, whereby everyone was dating each other except Rob and Simon.

But the relationship hit the rocks late last year when Emma broke up with Kelly and the relationship between Rob and Kelly subsequently broke down, leaving Emma and Simon deliberating over the future of their relationship.

“I’m in a very loving relationship with Simon,” she explains.

Simon adds that he and Emma had a connection from the start.

"I wasn't willing to let my relationship with Emma go without fighting for it, knowing that communication is key after a week I said 'we need to catch up',” Simon said.

“We ended up staying together.

“There’s jealousy, that’s an issue. It’s just an emotion and you have to deal with it by talking.”

Rob agrees the communication is one of the most difficult things, and why the quadruple relationship did not work out.

“Just getting the communication correct is one of the most difficult things,” he said.

“All the love that existed in the relationship when it was the four of us was great. We really cared for each other.”

Despite most friends and relations supporting their venture into polyamory, some of Emma’s family disapproves of her unorthodox lifestyle and she has chosen to distance herself from them.

“Emma had some problems with her family, but most people are quite open-minded about polyamory,”Rob said.

“I told my dad and step-mum, who is Turkish, about it at Christmas 2017 and I was quite nervous because she speaks her mind.

“She chimed in with ‘it’s weird, but it’s okay.’

“It’s whatever makes you happy.”

And while Simon and Emma have no plans of having any children of their own, the broody mum-of-four has said that hypothetically the option is not off the cards.

“If I fell pregnant with Simon, I wouldn’t have an issue with it,” she said.

“We’d have to speak about the logistics of it though.”

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