Posted Thu 10 Mar 2011 20:20
Nope. I was smacked a lot as a kid and belted up quite badly when my dad totally lost his temper (I was the last straw). It made me angry, resentful and my behaviour was even worse. I ran away, was rude and horrible - stuff like that. It might work on some kids, but it certainly didn't work on me and I don't think it's a good lesson to teach your children. The only person I listened to was my grandma who sat me down and explained why my behaviour was wrong.
DD is almost 3 and we use removal of something relative to the thing she's done wrong. For example, she had a little hissy fit and threw her toy train, so the toy train was put away for a week. She understands why and she's never done the same thing twice, so it's working so far. She's lost textas for drawing on the couch and things like that. When you're an adult and you do something wrong (eg crime), you don't get belted, you have your liberty or money taken away from you, so we're doing the same thing really!
She doesn't have many tanties and they are usually when she's really tired, so we just put her in her room with a book and she mostly calms down and sometimes has a nap. She's never had an uncontrolled screaming one - the closest she comes is struggling to avoid getting dressed and as soon as her clothes are on she's all smiles again.