Posted Fri 01 Feb 2013 11:25
I need help. My bf& I are expecting in June&I have a little boy(3 in Mar)from be we were together.Back in Oct when we announced our pregnancy,his mom brought up the idea of us finding a house together to help ease some financial strain for a while.Seemed like a great idea at the time but now that we've been living in this new house together since Dec 1..it's NOT working for me,AT ALL!!! His mom truly loves my son like he's her own blood...and I appreciate that considering he's only had my 2 sets of parents.My MAIN issue (the only 1 I'm gonna tackle now) is that she spends WAY TOO MUCH TIME WITH MY SON. It makes me feel like an inadequate mother, like I can't do anything right. She even took another day off work. WTH? (she now works 4 days a week) so I have less time for 1 on 1.EVERY morning,she takes over brekky,everynight b4 bed its upstairs in their living room he goes to spend his time b4 bed.She already raised a kid and had this quality time...it's MY turn,my son will only be little once!What makes this worse4me, is my hubby thinks I'm selfish.Nobody seems 2 understand or appreciate,that for the first 2yrs of my sons life, it was JUST him and I. We were so close& had lots of one-on-one time. I understand it's important we aren't together 24/7, but I barely get any time with him..she's always wanting to take him here and there&it's freaking me out about what it's gonna be like once the new baby comes.I didnt need help raising my son,I'm certainly not going to need constant meddling about the new baby.When I try to talk to my bf about how I feel he tells me I'm over-reacting,that I'm crazy,that if I say anything I'gonna push his mother away and she's not gonna want anything to do with my son.He gives no moral,loving support or back-up.I'm just at the point I don't know how this relationship can continue when the 1 person I should feel has my back,never does. Please help, I'm going crazy.