Mother-in-law - love or hate?

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    Posted Wed 09 Mar 2011 16:56
    My mother-in-law drives me mad! She turns up whenever she wants unnanounced but when I need her to help with the kids she is always busy. She tells me how I should be looking after my kids and has very old fashioned parenting style.

    How is your mother-in-law when it comes to your baby/kids?
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    Tanya
    31 Mar 2010
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    Posted Wed 09 Mar 2011 17:23

    Hmmm.  She used to teach Preps and Year 1, so she has lots of fun ideas for things to do with DD, who just loves her now.  But she gets very distracted easily and even DH doesn't trust her to look after DD anywhere other than in our house for a short time.  Neither of us would trust her to take her to the park or something.  She doesn't interfere with our parenting though, which is a very big plus. 

    We did have some rocky patches when DD was a baby, because MIL was too rough with her - lots of bouncing on the knee etc with DD's head bobbing about everywhere. DD cried every time MIL held her - it was horrible.  DH ended up having a tactful word with MIL about it and she got very defensive and stopped coming to visit for ages before she realised that she had done the wrong thing and then was more gentle.  But the damage was done and DD wouldn't have a bar of her until she was about 2. 
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    Polly-lou
    31 Mar 2010
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    Posted Wed 09 Mar 2011 20:16

    My MIl is a wonderful lady, she is brilliant with my children, looks after them 2 days a week while I work and they both adore her. We are very very lucky.
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    Lynn
    31 Mar 2010
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    Posted Mon 14 Mar 2011 01:01
    My MIL has passed but my step-MIL is a passive aggressive nightmare. She even kicked her own daughter and three grandchildren out of her house ON CHRISTMAS DAY because they arrived 40 minutes early. Thankfully she lives in the USA and is scared of flying so it hasn't been an issue.
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    Lulu

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    Posted Mon 14 Mar 2011 17:30
    Adore my MIL.  She has been there through every hard time in my life since I have met DH and she is like another Mum to me.  I am soooo lucky.
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    Cherie
    29 Oct 2009
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    Posted Mon 14 Mar 2011 17:54
    My mother-in-law told me after we had our first child,"It's Your baby, You Rock it"!  Not that I Ever intended to have Her babysit anyway!  She isn't close with Any of her Grandchildren, and she only has three!  She would send them a pair of underwear for Christmas!  Likie that baby really goes for that!   After I moved home to have My Mother help me, while I went back to work, all was just fine.  You could tell she loved them and took a lot of time to teach them and Love them!  y mothin-in- law  has missed out on a lot,None of her grandchildren are close with her.  I feel for her in that she has mised out on one of the most favorite times of a womans life.  I want to be a ,"hands on", Grandmother just like My Mother, whom my now grown sons Adore!
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    Posted Mon 14 Mar 2011 18:30
    Mine is the best. She'd bend over backwards to help in any capacity. Very tactful too, even when she's disapproving of a parenting technique. Good idea to listen to people who have been through it all before and have gained some perspective on things - just requires some swallowing of pride and listening. Young Mums all over could learn loads from their elders, if they keep their minds open to advice. Of course, sometimes it's outdated and annoying!
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