Honestly, did the sight of Heidi Klum looking once again like a super model 6 weeks after the birth of her fourth child make you want to grab the nearest bucket? It’s not just that she’s got a flat stomach, has clearly remembered to brush her hair and her eye balls are inside her skull, which suggests she is actually getting some sleep. No, it’s that she oozes sex. Now THAT, as any new mum will tell you, is simply not normal.
After having your abdomen stretched during your pregnancy so much that it started to split, having had your sexiest body part turned into some enormous, functional, distorted alien during labour, having had your once magnificently bouncy bust converted into a feeding factory, who is feeling vaguely attractive much less like a siren?
The politically correct thing to say is that your libido has gone into hibernation as a natural consequence of having a baby and your husband should not even ask you for a roll in the hay because that would be insensitive.
I’m putting it out there- that’s just a crock! Firstly sex is good for you. It boosts your immune system,  it lowers your stress levels (unless your partner is seriously deficient in bedroom skills), and it is a reasonable work out when exercise is hard to schedule! More than that, like a power walk at 6am, most women might hate the thought of it but once they’re into it, it’s pretty enjoyable. What’s not to like about an orgasm? And being held, kissed and stroked by our partners scores highly as a pass-time for most of us.
Moreover sex is probably VERY important to your bloke. Flatly refusing to let him near you and then hissing at him for asking just does put a strain on your relationship. Maybe not for the first 6 weeks but after 3 or even 6 months of saying no, he might pull away from you emotionally because the rejection hurts. I’m not saying he’s going to run out and jump the first girl at work that makes eyes at him. But good relationships require compromise from everyone. Investing in yours will pay big dividends for your new family.
Having sex might not be your preferred activity right now and it doesn’t have to be every day, but being prepared to give what your partner wants so much will mean an awful lot to him. And my guess is you’ll be glad you did it after wards.
COMING SOON...... libido boosters (I promise!!)