THE TRAIT: Responsibility
THE TEST: play the blame game. Next time she rear-ends someone during rush hour, listen to her post-game analysis. “Successful couples focus on positives,” says Dr Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and the author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. “Is she the eternal victim? Or does she accept responsibility?”
THE TRAIT: FlexibilityTHE TEST: cook dinner at her place. If she’s a control freak in her kitchen, she’ll have a hard time letting you take the reins elsewhere in life. Even if she’s a gourmet, she should still accept your different way of chopping carrots, reveals Pat Love, author of The Truth About Love.
THE TRAIT: PatienceTHE TEST: talk about work. The time she made an intern cry may make you laugh, but that attitude won’t stay in cubicle land. “If she rips into a co-worker for no reason, watch out. It shows what she’s like under pressure,” warns Dr John Van Epp, creator of the “How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk” program (nojerks.com).
THE TRAIT: EmpathyTHE TEST: take her shopping. Malls are buffets of human interaction – peeved customers, airhead shop assistants, mums with kids, all begging for vitriolic commentary. “You want to see empathy for the stressed and clueless. If she thinks most solutions are clear-cut, expect the same absolutism with you,” cautions Haltzman.
THE TRAIT: AdaptabilityTHE TEST: make last-minute plans. Sure, you’d planned a chick flick, but the only film not sold out is Scary Movie 19. Relationships change, so see if she can roll with it. Another time, show up 15 minutes late. If things like that set her off, “she’ll have no problem finding ways that you disappoint her”, explains Haltzman.
THE TRAIT: ConfidenceTHE TEST: remove the spotlight. Take her to a party, then watch her mingle. Does she seek male attention? Could be needy. Dodges women? Not good: women “deliver necessary honesty” to other women, says Love. Also, she knows that your female friends will offer a realistic review of her. Talking with them shows balls.
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Have to half disagree and half agree with this article. It has a lot of truth to it, in my personal experience, but who ever wrote this up makes these relatively tiny details look like relationship killers. No wonder guys go from woman to woman like it's a game when we're feeding them (us) this kind of rubbish advice. If these, again tiny details, are THAT big of a deal then A: Man up and bear 'em or B: Solve them. That's what REAL men do mate, we repair or we endure. We sure as HELL don't give up and most definitely not give up on a woman.
ReplyDear "women" who have a problem with this short "article" telling men to look out for psychos, please look up the book "undateable" which claims men are "undateable" if they like animals, hate animals, like cats, wear sandals, own shorts that end above the knee, or wear briefs
ReplyWhat a load of rubbish!
ReplySo basically if she is a carpet to walk all over, shes alright. \man and I thought it was only Girls mags that write this garbage. I think if they apply to women they should also apply for men..... Fairs fair and all......
1 Replyreal love has no test rules, most people nowadays enter a relationship looking for what they can get from it ,instead of contributing to it.TOO SAD.
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