The set-up: “Did you know you have a heart-shaped freckle on the back of your left thigh?”
After the first few months of sex, inch-by-inch body exploration yields to cut-to-the-chase carnality. That’s a shame, because having her body mapped puts a woman in the mood for luxurious sex. Pull aside the blankets on a weekend morning and run your eyes and fingertips from her toes to her earlobes, making admiring comments along the way. You won’t get past her elbows before she pulls you in for a deep, wet kiss.The set-up: “I screwed up and want to hear your thoughts.”
Whether you blabbed a good friend’s secret or ran over the neighbour’s hugely expensive racing bike, admit it. Confessing an error in judgment leaves you exposed and vulnerable, which makes a woman want to wrap you in her arms. Telling her about it wins her over even more – you’re showing that you value her opinion. The resulting combo of compassion and confidence will inspire her to make everything all better – or to at least distract you.The set-up: “I’m organising a team of volunteers for Clean Up Australia Day.”
Whether it’s fishing other people’s rubbish out of a creek, climbing mountains with inner-city kids or carrying your elderly neighbour’s shopping, helping others boosts your sexy factor for two reasons. First, altruism shows her that you can put your own needs aside, which inspires her to take care of them for you. Second, your good deeds make her feel as if she’s dating up, because clearly you’re a better person than she is. She’ll want to join forces with you on your life’s quest.The set-up: “You must be exhausted. Let’s take a hot shower and I’ll scrub your back.”
The number-one reason your partner turns down sex is because she’s stressed. And while she knows there’s no better cure for wound-up nerves than a spring-release orgasm, it can be difficult to shake off the day’s distractions. By blasting the hot water and lighting candles, you’ll offer a tension-melting solution she can’t refuse. Once the hot water and your soapy hands chase the stress away, she’ll finally feel sexy again.The set-up: “I want to accomplish a few key things in the next five years.”
When a woman hears a man talk about the future with a “whatever” attitude, her level of respect for him drops and her thighs snap shut. She was surrounded by way too many of those directionless blokes back in school, and she has learnt that men who have clear goals and realistic plans for achieving them are rare. She’ll appreciate your farsightedness all the more. Making up your mind settles hers as well.The set-up: “I’m taking tomorrow off to help chaperone my niece’s school trip.”
While a woman is impressed by a man who’s driven to succeed, she’s even more tantalised by a striver who’s willing to put a family member first – extra points if that family member is under 12. She’ll instantly flash-forward to when you’re the sweet, caring father of her children, at which point her heart will go all gooey. Come back from your outing with a cute stuffed animal for her and she’ll practically drag you into bed.