The truth: it’s a noble goal, but it’s not her ultimate standard. Many women have difficulty achieving orgasm and making it your personal mission heaps on the pressure. The encounter should be more about intimacy, which starts with words. Let her know that whatever happens is all right with you. That allows her to relax and she won’t have to resort to the mercy fake, says Berman.
If she’s really relaxed, feel free to suggest a vibrator. Another truth: she probably has one, and no, it can’t replace your multifaceted wonderfulness. She wants the emotional connection, says Berman.
Sep 12, 2012