Your two-pronged strategy:
1. Ask questions in bed that don’t require thought (“Faster or slower?”, “Like this?”). She’ll feel grateful to be asked and emboldened to tell you, says Sheri Winston, the author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure.
2. Caress her vestibular bulbs. They’re on either side of her vaginal opening. Press with your palm or tongue and, as they puff up, use a finger. Because they’re often ignored, giving them attention will be revelatory, says Winston.
Jul 26, 2012