"It sounds obvious now, but I didn't fully appreciate back then that what makes for a good marriage isn't necessarily what makes for a good romantic relationship," wrote Gottlieb, in this month's issue of marie claire. "Once you're married, it's not about whom you want to go on holiday with; it's about whom you want to run a household with. Marriage isn't a passion fest and it isn't a cosmic connection - it's about having a teammate."

Her advice?

"Don't ditch a guy based on an annoying habit or abysmal sense of aesthetics - because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Some guys aren't worldly, but they'd make great dads. Another might be 163cm with an unfortunate nose, but he "gets" you."

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