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What Men Really Want

Posted by Secret Men's Business for Love + Sex - Sun, 10 Jul 2011 17:06

“A man gives many question marks, however, a woman is an entire mystery!” – Diana Sturm.


Sense of Humour

My great grandfather always said laughter was the best medicine, which is I guess why several of us suffered from never-ending whooping cough. At the conclusion of an everlasting work day, most of us are lethargic, irritable, and suffer from an intense desire to burn anyone who gets in our way. A great sense of humour, a keen wit, and the sly ability to laugh at anything even remotely amusing will therefore alleviate a lot of life’s pressures and dramas. Everybody loves to laugh - the most successful movies, plays, and television shows have always been comedies. Life is way too short to take it seriously and so the most attractive quality a woman can have is to keep those around her in constant amusement. I keep in close touch with an ex-girlfriend to this day for the sole fact that we can make each other laugh like very few others can, and I guarantee that every guy out there is looking for similar fun and frivolity.

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Intelligence

While it is generally thought that men are fearful of women whose intelligence is superior to their own, nothing could be further from the truth. No one expects their significant other to be able to expertly discuss and analyse the geological topography of the People’s Republic of Chad, however, social intelligence and a keen interest in the world around us are qualities that will take most people a long way. In any sort of social scenario, we will be introduced to people who are well read, widely travelled, highly educated, and culturally curious, and it’s important that we are able to converse in type. Therefore most guys I know will always look highly upon a girl whose knowledge and interests are extensive and varied, and who is clever without resorting to grandstanding or the belittling of others. It’s been said before that sex and intelligence are the dual cures for boredom, and for single guys it’s not often that both are readily available in the same package. 

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Personal Style

While the male mind might easily be distracted by the flashing of an unholy amount of skin, it’s not generally something that will keep us occupied long term. We’re not all really that shallow and typically much prefer a woman who dresses for the occasion with a little class and elegance - it’s why you just don’t see that many guys actively pursuing relationships with Vegas showgirls or Jessica Simpson. It’s certainly important to wear a spectacular ball gown to a VIP event and to have a hot clubbing outfit ready to go, but we also appreciate a pair of ripped jeans and singlet when lazing around the house or a business suit and stockings for a client meeting. Fashion isn’t always about dressing up or dressing down and it certainly isn’t about showing us everything as guys definitely prefer to leave some things to the imagination. Give us variety, substance, and show us that you have a personal style all of your own, because clothes don’t just maketh the man and we do pay attention!   

A Knock-Out Feature

While guys would be lying if we said looks were not important, they maybe do not carry as much weight as most ladies would think. A woman does not have to be drop dead gorgeous with the body of Elle Macpherson and the face of Cleopatra for our interest to be tweaked. If you were to ask twenty guys what feature they found the most attractive in a girl or noticed in the first instance, you would quite likely receive twenty different responses. Some guys are derriere obsessed whereas others search for a Mercedes Corby picket-fence smile; some appreciate curves and booty while one of my mates has a strange obsession with well shaped ears. While you probably have no idea what that guy you have been eyeing at the bar for the last couple of hours looks for and prefers, you will certainly know what your own knock-out feature is and everybody certainly has one, whether it be mysterious eyes, sensual lips, lustrous hair, a killer set of buns, a gym toned stomach, or rose petals floating out of your cleavage a la Mena Suvari. Whatever it is, play it up, work with it, enhance it, own it. If a guy notices and admires your best asset, it’s more likely that he will transfer that admiration over to you as a whole.

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Confidence

Nothing is more attractive to me than a woman who breezes into a room like she hasn’t a care in the world. Carrying yourself with an aura of poise and self belief is a quality that will have male heads turning wherever you go. In this respect, confidence is channelled from someplace deep inside and it’s not an easy thing for men or women to fake or imagine - confidence can only be realised from a supreme belief in your own power. Watch your cat the next time it enters the room and acknowledge how it watches you with a curious mix of superiority, detachment, and impenetrable unflappability. While initially it will be difficult to stop yourself from throwing its smug face out the front door, you somehow are left working even harder to garner its love and approval. Confidence between the sexes prefaces innocent teasing, harmless flirting, and a sense of danger and mystery that allows for the transfer of power in any personal relationship. This will more often than not have any guy eating directly out of the palm of your hand. 

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Guys, did I miss anything? What other qualities are important to you?

Ladies, what are the qualities you look for in a guy?

 

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  1. frank03:47pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

    Me i like them petite, short and slim with hardly any boob. somehow it relates to a tighter fit if you follow me

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    1. John03:34pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

      mmmmmmmm woman yummy

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      1. 02:58pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

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        1. boo goose02:55pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

          Speaking from years of experience I can say don't worry about all that stuff. Find a woman who can cook and you will be a happy man til you die.

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          1. stuart02:55pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

            Good luck to everyone trying to find happiness with the opposite sex...................and there it is in all its beauty.........OPPOSITE............its not easy but there is someone for you in the world who you will get on with.......and one day maybe for me!

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            1. Anthony02:12pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

              All this garbage and not one person has mentioned a healthy dose of HJ's and a girl who will, at least occassionally, take one in the A!

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              1. 01:58pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

                All we want is a shiela who isnt a moaning leech and who blames men for every appalling act committed by one the "sisters".

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                1. Russell01:36pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

                  To all the ladies who say that money, status and power are not important when looking for a man. WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU ALL HIDING!!!! I've been living on this planet for close to half a century and I have met 3 women that REALY have this attitude, the rest say this dribble out of political correctness. (From another man who is over it) It's impossible to live with an unhappy woman and it's impossible to make a woman happy. Women are not content unless they have something to complain about to their girlfriends.

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                  1. Daggers01:24pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

                    Give me a girlfriend who is reasonably active & health conscious, isnt broke all the time and asking me for a loan until payday, doesnt insult everyone, doesnt have extreme opinions about everything, and has aspirations of achieving more than paying next month's rent. Having read my own comment again, I need a new girlfriend! HELP.

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                    1. 01:17pm Tuesday 12th July 2011 ESTReport Abuse

                      I don't mind casual sex and short term girlfriends, but I do not want to marry, live with a woman or have kids as the associated risks are too high and the rewards too low.

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