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The 5 Office Romance Rules You Need to Know

Aug 06 07:13am
Can't take your eyes off the attractive woman in the cubicle next to you? Got a thing for your tall, dark, and handsome office buddy? 

Welcome to the sometimes wonderful, often awful, world of dating in the workplace. Whether you have a crush on a higher-up or an inkling for a intern, mixing business and pleasure is almost never a good idea. But, let's face it, sometimes inner office hijinks can be irresistible -- so here's how to make sure you make it through a workplace rendezvous unscathed.

Familiarize yourself with the HR policy. Not all companies have the same stance on inner-office romance. Some companies allow it, others discourage it, and a few even have written policies that ban it. After becoming familiar with your own company's policy on inner-office dating, consider whether or not the relationship is worth the potential risks to your career and reputation.

You're not fooling anyone. If you decide to continue with your office fling, be open with your employers and your coworkers. Nothing is worse than dishonesty in these situations, especially because most people are savvy enough to realize what is really going on. Inform human resources and your employer, and casually let your coworkers know the scoop. Of course, torrid details are not necessary, but make sure that you aren't letting deception ruin your otherwise impeccable reputation.

Avoid naughty email exchanges. Save the romantic words for your sweetie until the bell has rung. Emailing via the company computer is a recipe for disaster, especially if that email recounts personal exchanges that would be humiliating if made public.

Try to keep it professional. Don't let your newfound crush change the way you treat each other. Keep it professional as much as possible when at work, and save the cutesy nicknames and special treatment for when you are at home. Additionally, don't devote all your time to one another. Maintaining a rapport with other coworkers is part of being a savvy businessperson, as you never know when you might need those contacts later in life.

Take the high road. If the relationship should end, coming into work will definitely be stressful and emotionally trying for some time. However, you can keep the office as tension-free as possible if you both agree not to gossip about the relationship with other coworkers. Take the high road and try to maintain a respectful and professional demeanor, especially in front of others.

If you can't resist the lure of a cubicle cutie, go ahead and give dating in the workplace a try. But don't say I didn't warn you!

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1. tammylocklear - Aug 08 02:02am
I've tried this once. My boyfriend/co-worker was in a different dept. than myself, so I didn't see him that often during work hours. Our company allows dating in the workplace. When my supervisor found out that I was dating this guy, she quietly pulled me to the side, smiled and said, "It's ok, but don't show any public displays of affection!" To make a LONG story short, our relationship ended in a not too good situation, and we don't speak at all! But, it's all good, because we actually didn't get that serious. I WILL definitely think twice about dating a co worker in the future!
2. whirinthelight - Aug 10 02:01am
it's too little too late to suggest that anyone "try to keep it professional" or "take the high road" if they've already involved themselves in an office romance. there's nothing professional about it and there's no high road they're taking getting involved in one. get real.
3. mip_ceo - Aug 11 08:13am
Lighten up whirinthelight !! You are allowed to date people you work with you know. Its not a sin !!! Sometimes you actually find the person of your dreams.
4. nelgnej - Aug 11 08:34am
I have experience a bad relationship breakup at work, my manager pull me aside, as it was effecting other staff. My solution was, I would resign, which they did not accept, as it had happen before with the same person. She was transferred to another branch.
5. chub_1097 - Aug 11 08:51am
suggested just the office sex after working hours and keep it a single life
6. aqkhana2002 - Aug 11 09:21am
Office is not for romance or date, thats a place from where you earn and run your familys. so respect the place. 2ndly you have enough time to have a date outside from the office and even you can take one day off....

cheers
7. lizsawers - Aug 11 09:40am
tried, tested and proven. i met my sweetie at work, and it was made public when he promoted to my boss. everything was great, except when it came to asking for time off at the same time, and the company wasn't too sure about it. I ended up leaving the company for that reason
8. lizsawers - Aug 11 09:40am
however we're still together, and found that working 24 hours a day together was great for our relationship, we are very compatible and still together now
9. familyng3 - Aug 11 09:48am
Been there done that. My wife and I met each other years ago and worked in the same department. We did get busted by the boss but he was cool. We're still married and expecting our 3rd child soon.
10. n_zulian - Aug 11 10:03am
for those who work long hours, work is a great place to meet people. i met my boyfriend at work and we have been together for a year and plan to get married. sometimes it just works for some people.
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