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Menopause: Boon or Bane for Sexuality?

Jan 17 05:24am

To many women, menopause may seem like a time when almost nothing goes right. A woman may experience hot flushes, sleeplessness, mood swings, vaginal dryness, and loss of sexual desire, among other physical and mental disturbances.

During this time, her children are most likely reaching adulthood and moving away, leaving behind the dreaded "empty nest." And as physical beauty inevitably wanes, a woman may also notice that her sexual relationship with her partner suffers from a grinding, unexciting sameness.

With such a scenario, is there any chance that sexual pleasure and satisfaction can be sustained, let alone improved after menopause? Surprisingly, the answer is yes.

A recent large European study, soon to be reported in the scientific literature, found that as many postmenopausal women did well sexually as did poorly. Not all women go through the plethora of possible menopausal symptoms mentioned above. Most symptoms of menopause are due to the dramatic reduction in estrogen production as the ovaries shut down. In many women, these symptoms can be effectively treated with estrogen replacement regimens.

Loss of sexual desire is not due to menopause, as most people believe, but to reductions in the hormone testosterone associated with aging. Physicians can prescribe replacement testosterone just as they prescribe replacement estrogens, although this avenue of treatment is sought much less frequently. And with concerns about pregnancy and monthly periods in the past, many women feel much freer to enjoy sex. Postmenopausal couples can finally focus fully on sexual gratification for the first time in decades.

Sometimes the problem is not experienced by the postmenopausal woman herself but resides in her partner. Often, male partners of the same age experience physical maladies that may undercut their sexual functioning. Here, too, there is hope in the half-dozen or so drugs now available for men. Nearly 70 percent of men with erectile problems respond to these treatments.

Menopause is not synonymous with physical and mental discomfort and a lackluster sex life. With a little effort to deal with symptoms as they arise, the results may well be worth it.

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11. newday224 - Feb 25 01:28pm
Had a total Hysterectomy at age 25, take progesterone with the Vivelle dot and when I forget I perspire like a waterfall. Part of life now at 46, we have to roll with the punches, life brings us. For dryness K=Y jelly is great.
12. sexyroyal@sbcglobal.net - Feb 26 03:15pm
I am 43 and I had my first hotflash on my 40th b-day and I thought I was gonna faint. I always wonder how people sit so calmly and ride it ouy. Me,I panic because I hav'nt gotten use to them yet. Does anyone out there know of anything I can take over the counter that will help me with hotflashes and these terrible mood swings? Sometimes my mood swings are so bad that sometimes I can't stand myself. Somebody help me please!
13. sexyroyal@sbcglobal.net - Feb 26 03:47pm
I am 43 and I had my first hotflash on my 40th b-day and I thought I was gonna faint. I always wonder how people sit so calmly and ride it ouy. Me,I panic because I hav'nt gotten use to them yet. Does anyone out there know of anything I can take over the counter that will help me with hotflashes and these terrible mood swings? Sometimes my mood swings are so bad that sometimes I can't stand myself. Somebody help me please!
14. maryrita12000 - Mar 01 10:43am
Don't worry it all gets better I started having hot flashes, missed period, sleeplessness when I was 45, I am now 53 and finally no more periods or hot flashes since last July, I feel wonderful now, I never took any prescribe drugs, but I did take over the counter herbal medicine, it worked great, hang in there........
15. desha_castillo - Mar 14 09:09am
My mom is menopausing. She is 48, her mood swings are horrific. I try not to be botherd but it affects so much it drives me nuts. I moved out cause of this.

What I want to know is when is the time that the symptoms get worst. And is best for family members to do to cope.

Thanks,

Dee in Belize
16. pkrusee - Mar 31 12:22pm
I have a huge question but it involves using a term that may not be permissible on this sight but, it is driving me crazy and need to know if I am the only one with this problem. So here it goes without using the term. Has anyone noticed that your c------- has shrunk sense menopause. I am 57 and in good health and am coming out of this fine. I had a pretty hard time at first but walked alot and took homeopathic ingredients. Just was wondering if anyone has this problem and what can you do and will it ever come back a little more. Thanks
17. helenthehellion666 - May 08 01:33pm
I've heard that taking the testosterone (androgen) will give you facial hair, deepen your voice, other "masculine" side effects. Does anyone have experience with this?
18. petot_15 - May 22 04:24am
Iam 46 Iam experiencing now hot flashes, sleepless nights, fast heartbet. I got this when I found my husband hiding a relationship with other woman. He's working far from us. But everytime I remember him having an intimate relationship with his mistress it disturb me a lot. My blood pressure arises and hot flashes starts. Do these instinct of mine, I main the relationship of my husband with other woman coincides with this hot flashes that iam experiencing now. I still have my period. Pls. help it cause a big problem for me. Thanks. God bless
19. brnsugs - May 22 02:06pm
Ginger works great for me. I buy the raw ginger, boil it and drink it hot. Drink wine in moderation at room temp. Do not drink water or anything ice cold. Soy products help also. I also drink green tea, ginsing tea and chai tea. I try to avoid the sugar. Exercise on a daily basis. I don't take any meds, don't drink soda's and avoid salt and load up on veggies. I often eat dark chocolate at night to help my mood swings. Papia fruit works well plus bananas and lots of water and fruit juice. I guess what I'm staying is that diet and exercise will cure a lot. At 50, I am sleeping better, less hot flashes, less mood swings, less stress, and great sex!
20. brnsugs - May 22 02:16pm
Eat and drink products that build blood such as red wine, beets and grape juice. These products increase my sexual drive so I think more blood is going to the vaginal area which curently sleeps a lot because of the lack of estrogen being produced. Cranberry juice works great also. It gives you energy and flushes the bladder and kidney's.
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