You've decided to get married and spend the rest of your life with your spouse. It's so exciting - and a bit scary! A lot of couples are having pre-marital counselling to ensure they're on the same page, so why not go through this checklist to give your marriage the best chance.

Are you agreed on whether you want children?

It's amazing how many couples believe an issue this big will sort itself out over time. Before you get married, you must be in complete agreement on whether you want kids and, if so, roughly how many. That may change, but you must start from the same place.

If you have kids, will they be raised in a certain faith?

Issues such as whether or not to have the children christened and religiously schooled can cause rows.

Is moving interstate or overseas an option?

It may not happen but, if the opportunity arose, would you consider it? I've heard lots of people say: ‘I didn't sign up to this marriage thinking I'd be leaving my home town', while their partner always dreamt of a stint overseas.

Where will you spend Christmas Day?

Many couples spend every year arguing over whose family to visit. Talk about it beforehand.

Have you worked out your joint approach to finances?

It's normal for someone who's careful with money to marry a spender; just find the middle ground. It's often a good idea to get the shopaholic paying the bills. That way they see firsthand the consequences of overspending.

Can you resolve issues?

Love does not conquer all. There will be hurdles so practice your conflict resolution skills.

What are your life goals?

Have individual goals and couple goals and support each other.