Optimists are more successful, healthier and happier.

put things in perspective

Most problems aren't permanent - but pessimists tend to forget that, says business coach Michael Rooke of AttitudeWorks in Sydney. "Typical optimists see bad situations as temporary and isolated - just a one-off that doesn't affect everything else in their life." However, negative thinkers "allow bad things to seem permanent and pervasive".

watch your language

Pessimists tend to pepper their speech with words like "disaster" when, in reality, although the drycleaner ruining your dress may be disappointing, it's hardly a disaster. Next time you use "catastrophising" language, "put it on a scale of one to 10", urges Rooke, who explains that 10 should signify a life-threatening situation.

forgive and forget

Forgiveness is a shortcut to happiness, says psychologist Dr Anna-Marie Taylor. "It's important to remember that forgiveness is a learned skill and it's based on how you think, not how you feel. Few people ‘feel' like forgiving," explains Dr Taylor, adding thatoptimistic people understand that choosing not to forgive is bad for their peace of mind as it breeds resentment, which only hurts one person - you.

give yourself a break

Pessimists are often perfectionists and are too tough on themselves, notes Rooke. "Perfectionism is negative and irrational. There's nothing wrong with wanting to do your best ... but you'll never deliver if you expect to be perfect." The solution? Acknowledge when you have achieved, not just when you haven't, and don't attribute success to good luck or other people. Optimists know how to take credit when it's due.

be grateful

Your mum was right - always count your blessings. This will help you feel more optimistic and happier overall, according to recent studies.* In fact, Dr Taylor recommends keeping a "gratitude diary" by recording a brief list of things you're grateful for, before you go to sleep, to end the day on a positive note. Reading back through the diary can be a great pick-me-up, too!

*University of California research

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