Open up

"I ask couples to talk about their fantasies in the presence of one another, to close their eyes and describe how they like to be touched and what they want to receive from their partner," says sexual psychotherapist Dinah Berlin. "Often, they find it's a complete surprise what the other desires."

Eat Right

"A good protein source and a slow-release (low GI) carbohydrate, such as a chicken pasta meal, would be fantastic to give you a little bit more energy throughout the evening," advises Brisbane-based dietitian Kate Di Prima.

Flirt

"Sex doesn't begin when you turn out the lights;" asserts Scott Hays in his book Built For Sex (Rodale, $35). "Couples who report being happiest with their sex lives invariably spent a lot of time flirting, teasing and playing. They trade sexy phone calls, full body hugs and quick kisses that are more than a peck on the lips."

Quit Smoking

Men who smoke have a higher risk of erectile dysfunction. Sydney researchers* have found that men who smoke a pack or more of cigarettes daily are 40 per cent more likely to be impotent than non-smokers.

Exercise

Exercise affects your endorphins and your mood; if you feel good about yourself, you will feel better about your relationship and your sex life," enthuses exercise scientist Martha Lourey Bird.