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Sex on the Brain

Apr 27 03:01am

A week or so ago, I wrote a blog entry about how researchers are discovering that women become more directly aroused from physical than from mental stimulation, questioning the popular notion that women get sexually aroused through their brains rather than through -- as men do -- their bodies.

The popular notion suggests that women need a lot of romance, relaxing, and foreplay to just get in the mood for sex -- never mind get excited and have an orgasm. But with these new findings in mind, I’ve gathered some other ways women might help themselves trigger that arousal response:

Go shopping for lingerie. Whether your style is white lace and frills or black silk and satin, the mere touching, choosing, and purchasing of sexy undergarments can trigger that feeling down there.

Get a massage. This suggestion may sound like a cliché, but massage is all about awakening the erogenous zones of your muscles and skin.

Work out. A fast walk, a heart-pumping bicycle jaunt, or even a simple stretch to warm up your muscles and reconnect with your body can elicit waves of feeling all over your body.

Take an extra-long shower or steamy bath. Water relaxes you -- and it can also stimulate you. Allow yourself to relish the feeling, the warmth, the sensual release of the water itself.

Enjoy!

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11. mygrace_land - Apr 27 08:26am

lol! stay on topic? Hmmmmmmm.......does that include you shutter? Just curious! Why are people so darn uptight if people stay on topic. I've been a room with a group of people and we will change the subject several times, its normal! No harm done, unless people begin to despitefully say mean nasty things to hurt others.

12. hardychick06 - Apr 27 08:32am

I am with you Gracie....talk about whatever you want honey....we are here to have fun also...

13. hardychick06 - Apr 27 08:36am

By the way I heard that men think about sex on the brain about every 30 seconds.. and women every so often but not as much.. and I am sure with Zam and Hunk its probably every 1 second ...lol... so do we have sex on our brain or what?....lol

14. mypurplecupcake - Apr 27 08:42am

Speaking from my own experience, I feel that my arousal peeks more mentally than by shopping or bathing, etc. I have experienced extremely intimate and sexually charged correspondence that has left me aroused to the point of distraction. Maybe this is a factor of my age (43), a pre-menopausal "symptom" or what, but comparing it to shopping for lingerie(?)... sorry, I'd rather read/talk about it.

15. whirlingwhitewind - Apr 27 08:48am

#14 I so agree with you!! Shopping? Puh=lease... looking at lingerie? Uh-uh... that's iimagining and not what I'd call physical! Now, if it was a private store with a reall nice male clerk helping me look, and try things on, and... LOLOL Now THAT kind of shopping I could go for!!