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Sex on the Brain

Apr 27 03:01am

A week or so ago, I wrote a blog entry about how researchers are discovering that women become more directly aroused from physical than from mental stimulation, questioning the popular notion that women get sexually aroused through their brains rather than through -- as men do -- their bodies.

The popular notion suggests that women need a lot of romance, relaxing, and foreplay to just get in the mood for sex -- never mind get excited and have an orgasm. But with these new findings in mind, I’ve gathered some other ways women might help themselves trigger that arousal response:

Go shopping for lingerie. Whether your style is white lace and frills or black silk and satin, the mere touching, choosing, and purchasing of sexy undergarments can trigger that feeling down there.

Get a massage. This suggestion may sound like a cliché, but massage is all about awakening the erogenous zones of your muscles and skin.

Work out. A fast walk, a heart-pumping bicycle jaunt, or even a simple stretch to warm up your muscles and reconnect with your body can elicit waves of feeling all over your body.

Take an extra-long shower or steamy bath. Water relaxes you -- and it can also stimulate you. Allow yourself to relish the feeling, the warmth, the sensual release of the water itself.

Enjoy!

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1. boz_9969 - Apr 27 03:07am

anyone for a hot steamy bath?? i also love giving and receiving massages. any takers????

2. diggingfrgold - Apr 27 03:19am

HEY, didn't earth day say NO to long showers...I know nobody would follow the rules on that one...It's true, water relaxes and STIMULATES!! LOL! Ummmmmm sooo nice.. coco~

3. lclopez725 - Apr 27 03:50am

I don't know, think I was born "on". Just the sight, sound, or smell of my man sends me through the ceiling, forget about his touch or kiss! I am a running for the bedroom.

4. taurus14_ts - Apr 27 05:45am

I find that a long hot shower stimulates me. After the shower, I feel so relaxed and that makes want to have sex.

5. tammylocklear - Apr 27 05:53am

Its true about the massage, I love massaging my man and then in return he'll massage me back. Really helps us relax after a long day at work, then everything just heats up!!!

6. alvertaarmstrong - Apr 27 06:18am

I have recently met a man,and thats all he talk about is sex.And what he would do when he gets some.I don't want to hear that,but I laugh it any way.Cause I don't want him like that and,I like it better if we just stay friends.I don't want to jeopardize the relationship.I know if I do this I know that he would please me.

7. hdoot - Apr 27 07:03am

First of all you certainly can not speak for all men. The good men must be excited mentally by a woman. The weird ones might do any one. So look for the GOOD. I think women should have a legal Viagra to help them.

8. azdjsteele - Apr 27 07:38am

Who's brain is Sex on-- You ask your partner if she would like a message-- she thinks-all he wants is sex. You ask if she would like to take a long shower and relax, she thinks-- all he wants is sex. You ask if she would like to put on a nice teddy, she thinks-- yep! you got it -- he wants sex. Candlelight dinner-- she thinks -- mmmmmmm yep!! and slow dancing -- she thinks -- see you have been there-- your thinking -- all he wants is sex-- so who is really thinking most about SEX?? the Man or the Women-- no wonder men run around horny all the time *lol*

9. wence125 - Apr 27 08:08am

Nice job. well said and your position is right on the mark. Enjoyed the commentary you wrote.. And i'm so much in agreement with the comments you responded to on the different topics.

So i will be looking to read some of you commentaries in the future since i enjoyed these reditions in thiss report.

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